229 “The Bullied Brain” with Jennifer Fraser

Today my guest is JenniferFraser, best-selling author and award-winning educator. Her online courses and workshops provide dynamic lessons in the impact neuroscience has on personal development and culture change. Her previous book, Teaching Bullies: Zero Tolerance on the Court or in the Classroom, explores what happens when the bully is a teacher or coach. Her new book, The Bullied Brain: Heal Your Scars and Restore Your Health, delves into how bullying affects the brain and how the brain can heal. Learn more at bulliedbrain.com

I’ve been glued to this book which is rich with information about bully culture, the damage it causes our brains, and what we can do about it. It’s a sad reality that our culture is so seeped in bullying and abuse — from children’s playgrounds to the upper echelons of leadership — that we’ve come to normalize the behavior and overlook the wreckage. This bullying paradigm has parents, teachers and coaches believing they must be tough to the point of emotional abuse in order for children to acquire the grit and resilience needed to attain excellence in a competitive world. The research shows however that the bullied brain correlates with failure to perform, substance abuse, aggressive behavior, chronic disease and mental illness.

Some of the topics we get into are the bullying paradigm, toxic masculinity vs. toxic stress, the “invisible” brain damage cause by bullying and toxic stress, open vs. fixed mindsets, building resilience, and in honor of Juneteenth I share some personal thoughts on how slavery was an extreme form of bullying and how we should consider what we’ve learned from Jennifer when understanding how to heal from it’s legacy.

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228 “Spirituality and Politics and the Second Amendment” with Marielena Ferrer

It’s the second Monday of the month and you know what that means, “Spirituality and Politics” with Marielena Ferrer. She’s joining us from Scotland today so we hear a bit about her trip and some of what she’s observing related to the culture of spirituality and politics on the island of Lewis and Harris. Then we dig into the conversations we’ve been having and the thoughts we’ve been thinking related to the 2nd Amendment and gun regulations, and of course we end with a little moon talk considering the alignment of the Full Strawberry Supermoon. You can read the whole report referenced here.

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227 “Holistic Health” with Cornelia Wathen, Diana Seiler and Alannah Henneberry

Today I get to speak with three members of the Holistic Health Community,Cornelia Wathen, Diana Seiler, and Alannah Henneberry.

Since 2012 HHC has offered Community Holistic Healthcare days at the Marbletown Community Center, 3564 Main Street, Stone Ridge (Route 209), on the third Tuesday of each month, from [4:00][8:00] PM. Then in March 2020 they shifted to offer virtual sessions during the last week of each month. Now that they are back to in person, they continue this virtual offering an ongoing event for out-of-town practitioners, for practitioners whose modalities are not appropriate for shared space (such as sound healing) and for practitioners who prefer virtual work.

During these events practitioners offer a wide range of services including acupuncture, reflexology, chiropractic, massage, Brennan Healing Science, Reiki, OrthoBionomy, NeurOptimal, Biophonton Therapy, One Light Healing Touch, Attunement, Reconnective Healing, Matrix Energetics, Jin Shin Jyutsu, Hypnotherapy, The Emotion Code, Spacious Heart Guidance, Psycho-Spiritual Counseling, Craniosacral Therapy, and much more!

Additionally, they offer a variety of special events, including speakers and workshops related to expanding consciousness and exploring holistic health, and in collaboration with the Rosendale Theatre Collective, they co-sponsor the screening of films related to health and well-being. See their Film Archive  for the full scope of programming.

The Holistic Health Community operates under the principle of Sacred Reciprocity/Paying it Forward. So, though there is no charge for services, they encourage sacred reciprocity by giving a donation, by doing volunteer work or by an act of loving kindness for someone in need. No one is turned away.

A little about my guests before we get into the conversation:

Cornelia Wathen regularly offers Brennan Healing Science and Emotion Code work at HHC events. She is one of the founders of The Holistic Health Community, and coordinates the Community Holistic Healthcare Days and Virtual Holistic Healthcare Weeks.

Diana Seiler is a licensed Thai Massage practitioner and instructor and has been serving with the Holistic Health Community for several years, most recently overseeing their Regenerative Farming: Soil to Soul Program.

And finally, Alannah Henneberry is an energy worker and certified Shamanic Reiki Healing Master. She has joined their mission to help advance the Holistic Health Community’s Holistic Healthcare to the People! initiative, aiming to make holistic healthcare accessible to locally underserved communities through their Outreach Program.

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226 “Decoding Health” Sarah Ann Carlson

Sarah Carlson is a health coach who was diagnosed with breast cancer in late 2020. What followed was a deep plunge into her health, genetics, nutrient levels and energetic and mental healing as she figured out the roadmap to wellness, vitality, and resilience that was individualized and informed by her unique genetics.

At this point, the deep darkest night of the soul of her cancer journey is passed, and despite being stage 2A at time of her surgery, she just celebrated her one year anniversary of her diagnosis with her first mammogram and ultrasound, and is well and cancer-free! She’s learned a lot along the way and is now helping others decode their health. You can sign up for Sarah’s newsletter and follow her on Instagram  @decodinghealthprogram to get notifications about podcast episodes, blog posts, happenings, or to just hear about her work and her journey.

Today’s episode is rich with useful information. Some key take aways: a one size approach may not be the most efficient or the most effective approach to managing one’s health; it’s important to have a complete picture of your health including genetics and nutrient levels via bloodwork; hormone imbalance in women is prevalent, but there’s lots that can be done; speaking of, it’s important for you to know about choline; there are good and not so good ways to detox the body, it can happen quite naturally with the proper support; knowing how and where your body is taking in toxins is a part of the overall equation; health also encompasses emotional wellbeing and intergenerational trauma.

Here’s where you can learn more about People’s Place Holistic Care Day.

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225 Lisa Marie Darling “Soundscapes and Lullabies”

New York-based sound healing artist Lisa Marie Darling crafts meditational soundscapes to foster emotional and energetic reconnection. Through a cappella vocalization and experimental, looped melody formation, Lisa creates otherworldly compositions to aid in identifying and unlocking fossilized trauma and grief. To date, she has released three albums—Darling Lullabies (2014), Canciones De Cuna (2017), and Into The Deep (2022). Her latest album presents a guided journey through inner emotional landscapes, integrating the vital healing energies of the celestial bodies of Earth, Sedna, Venus, Saturn, Mercury, and the moons of Mars, Jupiter, and Neptune. Listeners will be led into a calming space where surrender, meditation, reflection, and contemplation feel safe, possible, and sacred.

Today, Lisa shares her background and why she began doing the sound work including the four major life events that led her to the work including her mystical experiences and her life’s challenges. We begin talking about lullabies and their potent ability to heal and reduce pain and suffering not only babies, but also during palliative care. We then get to listen to some of the soundscapes, and she talks about how they came to be through her connection to astrology and planetary energies. We end our conversation talking about Lisa’s advocacy work to reduce sound pollution that was infiltrating her living space.

To experience the magic firsthand, you can join one of Lisa’s livestream Soundscape Journey events via the free Insight Timer meditation app. You can also find her music on Spotify, Bandcamp, SoundCloud, and YouTube or follow Darling on Instagram and TikTok. If you are interested in hosting a live Soundscape Journey event in the Hudson Valley area, you can contact Lisa directly and you can learn more about her work and all of her online and in-person offerings via http://www.lisamariedarling.com.

Finally, you can learn more about the Headstone Gallery event in which Lisa’s Soundscapes will be a part of coming opening June 4th over here.

And here’s your Forever Conscious Moon report for the upcoming New Moon!

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224 “BLOOM” with Circle Creative Collective

Today I am joined by Melissa Hewitt, Mirabai Trent, and Jenny Wonderling from Circle Creative Collective to talk about their upcoming happening, BLOOM, and their ongoing work to build on their commitment of connecting and inspiring diverse communities by sharing and preserving traditional crafts and skills.

BLOOM: the Rebirth invites you to rediscover your dreams and your most joyous and authentic you. Step upon candlelit paths through interactive dreamscapes celebrating wonder and the fullness of spring. Join our visceral journey through the woods and be both witness and player on an exuberant full sensory experience where performance meets the sacred and celebration. This is avant-garde ceremony, breaking the bounds and touching pure magic as creativity emerges from the trees and forest floor, falls from the sky, and is illuminated all around you. It’s a spectacle, an inspiration, an awakening and an offering to the earth and our collective future. This May, meet magical creatures who will share wisdom, music, dance, and even bring healing. BLOOM is living theater wrapped in a prayer.

We also talked about their offerings Sankofa, Chrysalis for teens program, and their Craft Preservation workshops. It was a lively and loving conversation about their relationships to rebirth, joy, conscious living and connecting in community.

Hope to see some of you at BLOOM on May 28th or June 4th at the Stone Ridge Orchard! Remember to reach out to them if you want to help out or would like to request a sliding scale ticket discount.

Oh, and here’s the information on this Saturday’s Together for Mental Health Community Walk.

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223 “The Birth Show” with Marielena Ferrer

On this month’s installment of Politics and Spirituality with Marielena Ferrer we go deep into birth and the many facets of this conversation including; immaculate conception, unwanted pregnancies, and rebirths.

Here’s the NPR article we referenced, and here’s Tanaaz’s Full Moon Lunar Eclipse report.

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222 Kia Abilay “The Gift of Listening” and Lisa Hantes “The Gift of Giving”

Today I celebrate the life of Kia Abilay. She was a guest on the show September 21, 2021 when she talked about her book, The Gift of Listening: Cultivating Your Connection to Spirit. The part of her story we didn’t get into in her interview was how she had been diagnosed with esophageal cancer and what she was doing to heal from it. Kia passed on November 22, 2021 and so today, on her birthday and the day of her Celebration of Life, I read from portions of her book in her honor.

Then in the second hour of the of the show, I am joined by Lisa Hantes president of the board of directors for Angel Food East, one of Kia’s favorite local charities which was chosen for remembrance donations in her honor. Lisa has been the board president for the last 8 years and is also a volunteer chef.  Locals may know her as the GM and co-proprietor of Keegan Ales, where she worked together with her husband Tommy for the past 10-12 years. She also works with Ulster Literacy association as a grant administrator and tutor trainer. Lisa lets us know how we can support the work of Angel Food East and all the cool happenings on the horizon at Keegans.

Don’t forget about Marielena’s opening this Friday at the Dorsky in New Paltz!

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221 Domestic Violence and Lara Sabanosh, Author of “Caged”

The content of today’s show won’t be uplifting, at least not most of it, but it’s real and necessary information not to be ignored or forgotten. We will be talking about intimate partner violence or domestic violence and abuse so sensitive ears may want to avoid listening. My colleague Mariel Fiori shared this first story with me and covered it on her radio show which is in Spanish, but I’ll link to it for those who are able to listen. It’s a story about a 17 year old girl, Yesmi Lara, who was severely beaten by the father of her two year old daughter. You can contribute to Yesmi Lara’s Go Fund Me.

Then I share from this article, Six Ways to Support a Loved One In An Abusive Relationship via NPR and talk about the impacts of trauma and abuse via the story of Melissa Lucio. False confessions are more common than you might think. More than a quarter of people exonerated by the Innocence Project in recent decades had confessed to the crime they allegedly committed, as Science reported.

Then there was this important news story related to abuse in the military, Air Force General Found Guilty of Sexual Assault via NPR.

Here’s the info about the Women Who Serve in the Military event happening this Friday, April 29th, and the Stand Against Racism Event at YWCA Ulster County on Friday, 4/29 at [4:30]PM.

We take a break from the heavy to talk this weekend’s NEW MOON REPORT!

In the second half of the show I welcome Lara Sabanosh who grew up in various parts of the country and for a time, lived overseas in Guantanamo Bay (GTMO), where she was an education service facilitator at the Fleet and Family Support Center and became acting director in December 2013. She spent much of her adult life as a wife, mother and student, eventually completing two doctoral degrees. Six years in the making, her new book, Caged: The True Story of Abuse, Betrayal and GTMO, is an honest and introspective memoir detailing the never-before-told other side of an international, headline story, taking readers through the first twenty years of her tumultuous marriage to Christopher Tur, to events as she lived them on the night he went missing and the aftermath. Lara is currently retired from government service, residing quietly in Pensacola, Florida, surrounded by her loving family, dogs, and grand puppies.

Lara shares about the difficulties and challenges faced when confronting and getting out of an abusive relationship, about the prevalence of abuse in the military and how they are failing to properly address it, and how she has learned to talk to her children about it and why that’s important.

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220 Kaity Altu “Child Care Connections”

Today I have the pleasure of speaking with Kaity Altu, Grant Manager, Child Care Connections at Family of Woodstock about the importance of investing in children. The NYS Office of Children and Family Services is offering a new grant opportunity to help open new child care programs in our region!  The INVEST IN NEW YORK CHILD CARE DESERTS GRANT hopes to address child care deserts across our state by offering $100 million in funding to help build child care in the areas of New York with the least supply. Child care deserts are areas that do not have enough licensed and registered child care slots to serve the children who live there and can be found throughout NY State. The grant is open until Thursday, May 18th.

We talk about the grant as well as the importance of childcare for a well functioning society, the challenges faced by childcare providers, the financial barrier to childcare and the issues that impact it, and how the US ranks in global terms of investment in childcare and child poverty.

You can reach out to Kaity with childcare questions at kaltu@familyofwoodstockinc.org and checkout her “krafts” on Facebook.

Here are the other resources I mentioned; Screening children for anxiety via NPR.

Freakonomics Podcast – Why does the US have the highest child poverty rates.

And last but not least, the Heal Well “Together for Mental Health Panel” that I mentioned and will be moderating on May 5 at 5:30pm.

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