215 Marielena Ferrer “War Through the Lens of the Tarot”

Back at it for another round of deep thoughts and wild talks with Mariaelena.

The second Monday of the month is inspired by the book, Espiritualidad y Politica, which was published 10 years ago, of which Mariaelena was a contributor. She is also the Executive Director of Humanamente — a diversity and inclusion consulting organization, Chair of the Athena Network New York — a psychosocial support network in the area of social services, health, and specifically in mental health, for immigrants experiencing psychological challenges related to the migratory process, a board member of the Family of Woodstock, a member of the Arts Mid-Hudson Advisory Board, and Kingston’s City Arts Commission.

March 14th is National Learn About Butterflies Day, and because Marielena has been working on an art installation involving 5000 butterflies, she shares why they are important to her, and a bit about her exhibit, opening May 6th, 2022 at the Dorsky Museum, closing May 8th.

Then we move right along to the biggest news in spirituality and politics today, the invasion of Ukraine. This includes a conversation about compassion inspired by this article. Marielena shares her assessment of the situation through the lens of the Tarot and then shares a meditation for all of us to practice on our own, to meditate on the key cards, the Emperor and the Hierophant, the majors players in what is unfolding at this moment.

Finally, we end the show with a little Moon love, and a share from Tanaaz about this week’s Full Moon Astrology.

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214 Tara Sanders “YWCA, Springwell, Self Care”

Tara Sanders is currently the Director of Community Outreach and Public Relations at YWCA Ulster County. Long before that, she came to her yoga mat to explore and heal. Having a strong commitment to serving the community and advocating for underserved populations, she has taught students at a mental health advocacy agency, homeless youth, and developed a therapeutic yoga & mindfulness program for a domestic violence shelter in Upstate NY. Since 2017 she has been working with the Ulster County Crime Victims Assistance Program in developing trauma informed yoga programming that is available for free to sexual assault survivors, anyone supporting survivors, and professionals working to support survivors with their healing. She was on the advisory board of Exhale to Inhale (2014-2020), a non-profit organization that brings yoga to survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault in New York and Los Angeles through free weekly classes at shelters and community-based organizations. She was one of Ulster County’s 2019 Raising Hope honorees, for her work in women mentoring women to success & Raising HOPE (help, opportunity, passion, empowerment) in our community.

Tara is a 500 hour registered yoga teacher, and has extensively continued her education with an emphasis on trauma-informed yoga, Yoga Nidra, children’s yoga, mindfulness, restorative yoga, adaptive yoga therapeutics, anatomy and bodywork, meditation, Ayurveda, and somatic healing. Working with adults and youth, it has been a dream come true to share the healing and grounding practice of yoga, and to be a conduit for the practices and teachings that have had such a profound impact on her life.

Today, Tara shared about the Y’s upcoming Springwell event happening on March 19th, the Building Resilience event happening on March 8th,  her trauma informed yoga classes sponsored by the Ulster County Crime Victim’s Assistance Program and the many more events happening at the Y leading up to their big fundraising gala happening in July, tickets go on sale in April. After the business talk, we then get personal with Tara, talking self care, boundaries, and living JOY informed!

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213 Caron Grossman “Heart Health and Permission to Grieve”

Caron Grossman is a Registered Nurse and Certified Transitional Life Coach. She has worked extensively with families, patients and health care providers in organ donation, critical care, health coaching and addiction. She has spent a great deal of time working with people in grief, end of life and other complex life transitions and living losses.

Caron is an inspirational speaker who offers different perspectives on grief. Topics have ranged from Self Care for Healthcare Providers when Experiencing Grief and Trauma, Learning to Communicate with your Grief, Caregiver Burnout and more…She finds great joy in creating and holding space in both large and small Grief Workshops and is looking forward to a new role as a volunteer and speaker for the American Heart Association.

Caron enjoys meditation, hiking, writing, drumming, frisbee, dancing, anything to do with water, one on one conversations over coffee, walking her favorite grand puppy, Lady Bark Ruffalo and her greatest joy is spending time with her 20 month granddaughter, Chloe, who has taught her the magic of pure play and presence.

Today Caron shares her story about losing her mom at the age of 13 to a heart attack when her mom was just 39 years old, and how her grief from that affected her life until the point that Caron decided to turn things around. She changed her eating, stopped drinking and tended to her emotional needs. A few weeks after a clear echocardiogram last year, she suffered her own heart attack. Caron shares the lessons learned and what she knows about tending to the needs of her heart, both physically and emotionally. We also talk about the importance of women understanding that we do not always present the same way as men when having a heart attack, and to trust your gut when it comes to advocating for your health.

As someone who’s studied and worked with her own grief Caron also talks about giving ourselves permission to grieve, including how to communicate with your grief. Here’s her TEDxTalk on the subject.

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212 Suz Slezak “Our Wings May Be Featherless”

Today I welcome Suz Slezak, mother and musician, to the show. For Suz harmonizing with another human being is a sacred act of sharing breath. This lifelong love of harmony is how she, as if by accident, fell into music as a career. Suz grew up TV-free on her family’s Virginia homestead, in an endless loop of fiddle-playing and singing led by her father, a Catholic seminary dropout, as she, her brothers and a gaggle of fellow homeschoolers traversed gravel roads in their beat-up station wagon en route to choir rehearsals and music lessons.

While not on a path to pursue music, it seemed to be following her. Convinced by her now-husband to join his band, the two eventually fell in love and for the past fifteen years have co-fronted David Wax Museum – earning accolades from the New York Times to NPR, performing on CBS Saturday Morning, and even playing Secretary of Transportation Pete Buttigieg’s wedding.

After years touring and co-fronting the band, Suz’s debut solo album, Our Wings May Be Featherless, comes out March 4th. It is a breathtaking journey through some of her life’s most painful and poignant moments – losing a best friend to suicide, her public struggle with bipolar disorder, and a traumatic childbirth. Today we listen to a few of the new songs and hear about the stories behind them.

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211 Spirituality and Politics with Marielena Ferrer “Valentine’s Day Edition”

It’s the second Mo(o)nday of the month which means Marielena Ferrer returns for another talk about Spirituality and Politics, the Valentine’s Day edition. We stumble through the messy history of the day and talk about how we feel about it, debate a bit about how to handle the day if you don’t have/want a romantic partner which brings us back to ways of celebrating the day, self-love, Galentine’s, etc. regardless of your dating status. I then perform my annual ceremony to commit to oneself which Marielena happily plays along with. Here’s the I ME WED ceremony recorded for you.

The Full Moon is Wednesday so we then spend a little time at the end of the show talking about the predictions and suggestions of this Full Moon Astrology.

Here’s the link to artist submissions mentioned by Marielena.

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210 Aileen Weintraub “Knocked Down: A High Risk Memoir”

Inspired by an article written by today’s guest, Aileen Weintraub, I begin the show reading “When Doctor’s Downplay Women’s Health Concerns” from the NY Times, and then on the live show we listen to Jennifer Brea’s Ted Talk. You podcast folks can check out the <- link to her show or listen to the radio archive.

Jennifer Brea was a PhD student at Harvard when, one night, she found she couldn’t write her own name. Over the following months, while doctors insisted her condition was psychosomatic, Brea became bedridden. She started filming herself and the community that she discovered online, collecting the first footage of what would become a feature documentary about myalgic encephalomyelitis (ME), often referred to as chronic fatigue syndrome. The film, Unrest, which premiered at the 2017 Sundance Film Festival, tells Jen’s story as well as the stories of four other patients living with ME. She is the founder of #MEAction, an online organizing platform for ME patients around the world, many of whom cannot leave their homes.

Later, (13 minutes into the show) Aileen Weintraub joins me live, an award-winning author, journalist, and editor. She has written for the Washington Post, Glamour, NBC, and AARP, among others. She has also published several children’s books, including Never Too Young! 50 Unstoppable Kids Who Made a Difference and We Got Game! 35 Female Athletes Who Changed the World.  Her forthcoming essay in the New York Times, is about her interfaith marriage and being disowned by her Brooklyn Jewish community. You can find out more about her at http://www.aileenweintraub.com and on Twitter @aileenweintraub.

Her soon to be released book, Knocked Down: A High-Risk Memoir (March 1, 2022; University of Nebraska Press) explores what it meant to check out of life for so long and how it affected both her mental and physical health, her marriage, and her relationship with her family. At four months pregnant she was walking around New York City with her new husband, when she suddenly felt a sharp pain in her lower belly. An emergency sonogram showed that she had unusually large fibroids growing in her uterus, right alongside the baby. One of them was pressing directly on her cervix, causing early effacement. The prognosis: Go to bed, and don’t get up until the baby starts to crown. She spent the next five months on strict bed rest in an old Hudson Valley farmhouse trying to save the life of her unborn child.

Today on the show, we talk about the memoir, about bedrest, women’s health, talking publicly about your family, losing friends, and writing about inspiring kids and women athletes. You can order the book NOW, even though it officially releases March 1st. She’ll be doing a book signing at Rough Draft in Kingston on March 5th from 11-1pm. 

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#210 Aileen Weintraub “Knocked Down: A High Risk Memoir”

Inspired by an article written by today’s guest, Aileen Weintraub, I begin the show reading “When Doctor’s Downplay Women’s Health Concerns” from the NY Times, and then on the live show we listen to Jennifer Brea’s Ted Talk. You podcast folks can check out the <- link to her show or listen to the radio archive.

Jennifer Brea was a PhD student at Harvard when, one night, she found she couldn’t write her own name. Over the following months, while doctors insisted her condition was psychosomatic, Brea became bedridden. She started filming herself and the community that she discovered online, collecting the first footage of what would become a feature documentary about myalgic encephalomyelitis (ME), often referred to as chronic fatigue syndrome. The film, Unrest, which premiered at the 2017 Sundance Film Festival, tells Jen’s story as well as the stories of four other patients living with ME. She is the founder of #MEAction, an online organizing platform for ME patients around the world, many of whom cannot leave their homes.

Later, (13 minutes into the show) Aileen Weintraub joins me live, an award-winning author, journalist, and editor. She has written for the Washington Post, Glamour, NBC, and AARP, among others. She has also published several children’s books, including Never Too Young! 50 Unstoppable Kids Who Made a Difference and We Got Game! 35 Female Athletes Who Changed the World.  Her forthcoming essay in the New York Times, is about her interfaith marriage and being disowned by her Brooklyn Jewish community. You can find out more about her at http://www.aileenweintraub.com and on Twitter @aileenweintraub.

Her soon to be released book, Knocked Down: A High-Risk Memoir (March 1, 2022; University of Nebraska Press) explores what it meant to check out of life for so long and how it affected both her mental and physical health, her marriage, and her relationship with her family. At four months pregnant she was walking around New York City with her new husband, when she suddenly felt a sharp pain in her lower belly. An emergency sonogram showed that she had unusually large fibroids growing in her uterus, right alongside the baby. One of them was pressing directly on her cervix, causing early effacement. The prognosis: Go to bed, and don’t get up until the baby starts to crown. She spent the next five months on strict bed rest in an old Hudson Valley farmhouse trying to save the life of her unborn child.

Today on the show, we talk about the memoir, about bedrest, women’s health, talking publicly about your family, losing friends, and writing about inspiring kids and women athletes. You can order the book NOW, even though it officially releases March 1st. She’ll be doing a book signing at Rough Draft in Kingston on March 5th from 11-1pm. 

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209 Artivists Poet Gold and Suprina “Say Their Names”

Happy New Moon, Lunar New Year, Imbolc and Black History Month!

Today I am honored to welcome The Poet Gold, Artivist, Poet, Author, Teaching Artist and Radio Host, and Suprina, Sculpturist and Artivist. They are collaborators and the Executive Producers of the video “Say Their Names,” premiering February 1st at 7pm eastern. (Poet Gold and Suprina’s interview starts around minute 36)

Like so many Americans The Poet Gold @_poetgold_ and Suprina @suprinasculpture struggled to understand the individual and cultural meaning of the murder of George Floyd. Through ordinary conversation, they found out they were each dealing with this issue in their own arts. Suprina was creating a ghostly and ghastly, ironic representation of the blind goddess of justice, Themis. Poet Gold was writing one of her poelodies addressing American racism and oppression, which ends questioning our individual and communal humanity. Poet Gold asks “What kind of humans are we inside?”

These Hudson Valley friends broadened their original collaboration of a processional performance to producing a video, “Say Their Names,” spanning 500-years of American racism that ends with a hopeful possibility for our future.

The screening is free, but you must RSVP. Afterwards, the audio will be available to download on Bandcamp or at http://www.poetgold.com and a portion of the proceeds will go towards bringing the Soundtrack of Life, an anti-gun violence program by the Sundog Theatre, to the Mid-Hudson Valley.

 Our conversation weaves through the subjects of hope, forgiveness, shame, justice, white privilege, and happiness. I hope you will consider supporting and shouting out their work!

And here’s the Art and Social Justice show Suprina mentioned happening through March 13th in Woodstock. Reception: Saturday, February 19 | 4-6pm.

And earlier in the show I shared the New Moon Report from Tanaaz at Forever Conscious and Refinery 29’s Report.

For those of you who want to do something to celebrate Imbolc, this website is really great!

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208 Inno Powell from “Abundance Farms”

WELCOME TO SEASON 5!!!!! Today I have the privilege of speaking with Inno Powell, Founder of Abundance Farms. “Their mission is to get fresh organic produce into the homes of BIPOC families in and out of Ulster County, NY. There are so many people living in places where food apartheid plays a big part in our communities and we aren’t even aware of it. We started growing out of public and private spaces in Kingston, NY for our first two seasons. By the end of the second season, we had reached about 80 BIPOC families with most of those families being served on a regular basis with a free vegetable share from the farm. We had over 50 volunteers help out this season from the beginning to the end and I honestly think that they are the reason we were able to keep this going because it takes a village in every sense.” They are embarking on a fundraising campaign to continue and expand this good work which is just one of the reasons I was glad Inno said yes to being a guest on the show. You can follow them on Instagram, @wefeedbipocfree and Facebook, https://www.facebook.com/wefeedbipoc.

Today we hear the powerful story of how farming found Inno, or really, returned to Inno, as something that was always deep in their roots, and all about the journey to Abundance Farms and the good work they are doing there. Plus, Inno shares about faith, the “good book,” finding oneself, the other side of incarceration, midwifery, as well as some poetry about being a single mom. It’s a must listen!

Here’s the farm’s website where you can volunteer, join the CSA or donate.

And here’s the petition on midwifery centers in NY State.

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207 Full Moon Release and Ritual with Theresa

It’s a Full Moon and so we’re doing a little Full Moon Release and Ritual on today’s show. I share from the Forever Conscious Full Moon report and a little from Cory Nakasue’s show, The Cosmic Dispatch. Then you can move your body for some physical release with a little (mostly) 80’s dance party. Here’s a link to the Playlist for today’s show, or feel free to use your own inspiring music! This is followed by some reflecting and journaling, working with Kim Kran’s Archetypes, The Tear, The Heart and The Vision. If you don’t want to navigate to the playlist, you can hear the full show straight through via Radio Kingston who has the rights to play the songs!

Here’s the article on choosing your word for the year.

And last but not least, advice for changing your life, be flexible!

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