229 “The Bullied Brain” with Jennifer Fraser

Today my guest is JenniferFraser, best-selling author and award-winning educator. Her online courses and workshops provide dynamic lessons in the impact neuroscience has on personal development and culture change. Her previous book, Teaching Bullies: Zero Tolerance on the Court or in the Classroom, explores what happens when the bully is a teacher or coach. Her new book, The Bullied Brain: Heal Your Scars and Restore Your Health, delves into how bullying affects the brain and how the brain can heal. Learn more at bulliedbrain.com

I’ve been glued to this book which is rich with information about bully culture, the damage it causes our brains, and what we can do about it. It’s a sad reality that our culture is so seeped in bullying and abuse — from children’s playgrounds to the upper echelons of leadership — that we’ve come to normalize the behavior and overlook the wreckage. This bullying paradigm has parents, teachers and coaches believing they must be tough to the point of emotional abuse in order for children to acquire the grit and resilience needed to attain excellence in a competitive world. The research shows however that the bullied brain correlates with failure to perform, substance abuse, aggressive behavior, chronic disease and mental illness.

Some of the topics we get into are the bullying paradigm, toxic masculinity vs. toxic stress, the “invisible” brain damage cause by bullying and toxic stress, open vs. fixed mindsets, building resilience, and in honor of Juneteenth I share some personal thoughts on how slavery was an extreme form of bullying and how we should consider what we’ve learned from Jennifer when understanding how to heal from it’s legacy.

Today’s show was engineered by Manuel Blas of Radio Kingston.

Our show music is from Shana Falana !!!

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#124 Juneteenth with Jessieca McNabb and Monique Tinsley and Multicultural Festival with Sarah Litvin and Caprice Rouge members Laura Crimmins, Karen Levine and Elena Erber

Today, we’re talking Black Lives Matter, multicultural community and UNITY!

Joining me in the first hour is Jessieca McNabb, comedian, co-host of Harambee Radio,No One Like You and oft guest on My Kingston Kids on Radio Kingston… and an active member of the Harambee Coalition, a mid-Hudson valley coalition that supports and promotes the strength of our community through cultural and educational events that enriches the lives of youth and adults. You can also catch Jessieca’s last appearance on “i want what SHE has” Episode #106, from February 5, 2020.

Joining Jessieca is Monique Tinsley, Jessieca’s “day 1,” who is also a vital member of the Harambee Coalition, working with Jessieca on initiatives to protect and restore the African Burial Ground on Pine Street and the upcoming online Juneteenth Celebration taking place online this Saturday from 1-4pm.

The Juneteenth holiday is considered the “longest running African-American holiday”[22] and has been called “America’s second Independence Day”. This Saturday’s Celebration will take place live on Harambee’s Facebook page to celebrate and remember the African-American Independence from slavery in America. This online festival will entertain, encourage and educate guests on parts of the African-American experience. This is a family friendly event which will include song, dance, spoken word, history, talk and more from various participants at locations throughout Kingston. This event is in loving Memory of Pastor Paul Worthington.

Jessieca and Monique speak with me about the Black Lives Matter protests, Juneteenth, the African Burial Ground and the importance of self care. Words they shared that I want to amplify are the need for white people to really pause regularly and soak up the reality of the black experience in the past few hundred years so that we don’t stop the pressure until there’s real equality and appreciation for black lives.

In the second half of the show I am joined by Sarah Litvin, PhD., Director of the Reher Center for Immigrant Culture and History to talk about the Multicultural Festival that is happening online now. The online festival website is the host to rich content from our diverse history and community; performances, cooking instructional videos, greetings in various languages, a list of our diverse restaurant scene and a community quilt.

Joining Sarah are three members from the band, Caprice Rouge, Laura Crimmins, Karen Levine, and Elena Erber, who are participating performers in this year’s online festival.

Caprice Rouge is an acoustic ensemble from the Mid-Hudson Valley of New York State playing Balkan, Roma-Gypsy and Klezmer dance tunes! Performing on traditional instruments including accordion, violin, bouzouki, gypsy jazz guitar, clarinet, and percussion, the band is happy to play for dancers, revelers, and listeners at taverns and cafes, festivals and farmers’ markets, at weddings and other celebrations!

Stay tuned for live performances by the band once we’re safe for social distancing, and in the meantime, join in the online festival which will continue to have more content added to it in the coming weeks!

Today’s show was engineered by Nick Panken of Radio Kingston, www.radiokingston.org.

We heard music from Caprice Rouge and Shana Falana.

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