250 Collaborative Divorce with Nanci Smith, Esq.

Today on the show we’re talking divorce. In the first half of the show I talk about my “divorce” and then share a bit of my experience as a divorce attorney and some general thoughts on divorce and separation. Did you know that 40-50% of all marriages end in divorce? Then in the second half of the show I am joined by Nanci A. Smith, Esq., an attorney licensed to practice in Vermont and New York. She is the chair of the Collaborative Divorce section of the Vermont Bar Association, a leader in her collaborative divorce practice group, and a member of the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals. She frequently writes and talks about divorce, family law, ethics, and collaborative divorce practices. She believes that a good divorce is possible when you show up for it with humility, compassion, and the correct support. Smith is the author of Untangling Your Marriage: A Guide to Collaborative Divorce (Rowman & Littlefield Publishers, Oct 11, 2022). Learn more at nancismithlaw.com.

Today Nancy explains what Collaborative Divorce is, the ways of getting divorced, the things to consider when choosing how to get divorced, how to help kids through a divorce and how to take care of yourself and rebuild after a divorce. NOTE: There was a glitch at some point during the recording of the show where 20 seconds was not picked up so there will be a less than seamless explanation when Nanci is taking about the ways of getting divorced. Apologies!

I shared from this article Why it’s so hard to leave when things aren’t working from the Elephant Journal, and the stats that I shared came from these websites. I also played a few of the songs that got me through my big separation. Those and more can be found at this playlist

https://legaljobs.io/blog/divorce-rate-in-america/

https://www.itsovereasy.com/insights/causes-of-divorce

https://memphisdivorce.com/tennessee-divorce-law/divorce-rates-statistics-and-trends-for-2022/

https://www.wf-lawyers.com/divorce-statistics-and-facts/

Today’s bonus conversation with Warren is about loving yourself and seeing the signs when you’re not.

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249 Mental Health and Gratitude with Tara Sanders

Today, my pal Tara Sanders returns to the show to talk Mental Health and Gratitude. An Ulster County native, Tara is a trauma-informed yoga teacher and educator. She presents for a number of county-wide agencies, schools, and nonprofit organizations. She was most recently the Director of Community Outreach and PR at YWCA Ulster County, and is working with HUDSY TV on their event series, Beyond the Screen.
 

Our gal pal chat winds through the themes of capacity, comfort zone, grief, loss and mental health, somatic care and of course gratitude!

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248 Spirituality and Politics and Racism -AGAIN- with Marielena Ferrer

Today we begin by sharing and discussing Nikki Fogerty’s weekly Tarot report.

Then we’re off to the races talking about racism, what it means, why it happens and what we think about how to resolve our country’s racist problems. Marielena talks about what motivates people and how this affects their overall behavior including stereotyping and controlling others. This conversation was prompted by the political problems in LA with racist speech.

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247 Kevin Ann Jordan “Style Coach and Sustainable Style”

Kevin Ann Jordan@tailoredstylist has been helping women get dressed since age three, starting with her younger sister. Growing up in a remote mountain town in California, she didn’t have a lot of exposure to the fashion world but she loved the bi-annual school clothing shopping trips and reading fashion magazines. Kevin has always wanted to help people, and after a corporate career in the healthcare industry, she realized that she could help women on an individual level through styling. Starting at Stitch Fix, Kevin was trained as a virtual stylist and later started her own business, cultivating a roster of clients around the world from Sydney to New York to Vancouver.

Always practical, Kevin disliked the amount of waste created by the fashion industry, including the amount of low quality clothing piling up in women’s closets. With a mantra of quality over quantity, Kevin began to discover the sustainable fashion movement. Starting in her own closet, Kevin learned just how bad our clothing, and consumerist culture is for the planet, its people and animals.

Today, Kevin makes it her mission to help the planet one closet at a time through her one-on-one work with clients, as well as the Sustainable Style Club she launched in 2022. Kevin is spreading the message about buying less, recycling more, curating mindful, beautiful closets and wearing clothes that make us feel great, without compromising the planet.

She’s my guest this week and shares a million good ideas about how to think about what you’re wearing and how it impacts the environment starting with understanding your style manifesto, to buying less, re-imagining your clothes and how to recycle them. Her work is truly quite transformative, and I am excited to share this conversation with you.

Here are some of the resources and companies Kevin talked about on the show today: Good On You app and website Goodonyou.eco, ForDays – takeback bag, Marine Layer, Smartwool, Nisolo Everlane,Outerknown,Madewell, Eileen Fisher and Patagonia.

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246 The History of the Witch

In honor of the season, I wanted to remind us all of the history of the “witch” and her persecution by reading from Silvia Federici’s Caliban and the Witch.

And here’s a little Tarot reading for the week.

The playlist we enjoyed throughout the show can be found here.

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245 The Art of Pau

PAU Quintanajornet doesn‘t paint pictures. Pau creates worlds – open invitations to a journey into the beauty of Latin American influences and into the spheres of an artist, who with brushes, paint, ink, paper and wood, playfully turns her world inside out. The cleavage between cultures loosens up. From the friction between her Chilean roots and her German home she draws her own symbolism in bright colors and shapes which grows out of the ground like plants rising to the sky. Birds also occupy a large space in Pau‘s World: in her „cosmovision“ they symbolize free spirits of wisdom and peace, spreading their wings and coping with highs and lows of life.

Born in Chile and raised in the former DDR, Pau moved to Berlin at the age of 15 to broaden her horizons and find a creative outlet. She studied communication-design and illustration at the FHTW before taking off to South America. In Valparaiso, Chile, she recharged her batteries and set the course for her future. Falling in love with the Urban Art Movement and Artivism, Pau started to create her first wall pieces down South.  Although she eventually returned to Germany, Pau would frequently revisit Latin America – her Motherland – her emotional home. During these returns, she might discover something new about her self or her art, socialize with other artists or improve her techniques. In the collective of the Artivists, Muralistas and Street Artists, Pau found birds of the same feather.

Over the last couple of years Pau has participated in numerous festivals and art projects around the world. These travels and interactions with the people around helped her to find a deeper meaning in her work and get more sensitive for different global realties. Inspired by the words of Pablo Neruda, “The murals are the books of the people “ she started a long term art project called PROJECT WALLFLOWERS in 2013. Her work is found on walls in Egypt, Tunisia, Spain, France, The Netherlands, Germany, United States, China, Ecuador, Peru, Bolivia and Chile … . While Pau‘s walls are on display in public spaces, they are created with the permission of the communities. Her interest lies in sharing her art with people, not creating notoriety for her self.

Today Pau shares begins by telling us how art became the tool she was drawn to as a young person to help her emotionally as her family fled Chile as political refugees and the danger they faced prior to relocating to Germany. There’s no doubt that while her childhood was traumatic, it set her up for some profound perspective on who she is and how she wants to live her life. We talked about her becoming an Artivista and how it was the first identity that she claimed as her own versus it being imposed on her by others. We talked about the masculine and the feminine and how she connected with her own inner manifestations of those as she navigated heartache and learned to cultivate love in all she does. Inspired by this quote: “You also learn that there are real priorities and imposed priorities. The beauty of this lifelong journey is that you get the tremendous opportunity to get to know the real you with all its flaws and all its magic. I gain stability when I feel centered and reflected in my work and with the people around me.” We talk about how she established her own priorities and how she works to live them each day, including how this impacted her “Art World” and how she moves through the “Art Market.” She shared about her work Project Wallflowers, the Blooming Seeds, and #staywithhumanity. We end with a quick share on how she takes care of herself with her active life and how sobremesas are a special part of that.

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244 Permission to Pause with Lauree Ostrofsky

For nearly 20 years, Lauree Ostrofsky has served as a speaker, author, coach, and communications consultant with clients including IBM, the U.S. Department of Health & Human Services, Fodors Travel, Liz Claiborne’s domestic violence awareness program Women’s Work, and the Girl Scouts of the USA. I’m also founder of Hudson Valley Women in Business in upstate New York, and the #HugTour Movement.

She returns to the show today to talk about taking a pause and the permission needed to do so. She shares an abbreviated version of an important life transition that propelled her to where she is today, and then catches us up on where she is now, as a new step-mom and someone who needs to take a break from certain work obligations in order to keep the balance in her life and the clarity in moving forward. We talk about the difficulty in saying no, or taking a pause from something important as well as how she is doing motherhood differently by keeping some of her time and her things sacred to her alone. Finally she walks us through how she finds the “permission” to do difficult things and shares ways for you to find that for yourself.

Her memoir, I’m scared & doing it anyway (2013), shares the hospital epiphany that led her to create a life and career she loves.  Her second book, Simply Leap: Seven Lessons on Facing Fear and Enjoying the Crap out of Your Life (2016), helps you forge your own path of reinvention, cupcakes and dance parties included.

Here’s Nikki Fogerty’s Tarot Report on Lust and the Princess of Discs. Quite a timely reading for us!

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243 Art with Shauna Kanter and the Art of Living Together with Marielena Ferrer

It’s another conversation inspired by Spirituality and Politics with Marielena Ferrer. Today we are joined by Shauna Kanter for the beginning of the show to talk about her upcoming play “Art” which is running Oct. 13th-23rd in Bethany Hall at the Old Dutch Church in Kingston, NY. We discussed themes of the play which launched us into a lively conversation in the remainder of the show around conflict, conversations, gentrification, an artists role (or not) in gentrification and valuing art in our economy. It was a lively one which makes sense with yesterday’s Full Moon in Aries. No time for a full moon report, but you can read yours here.

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242 Kissey Asplund “Generation Watts” and the Circle Creative Collective “LUMINOUS”

Kissey Asplund of Generation Watts works as a creative consultant specializing in the process of generation and creative subatomic energy. Her creativity expresses itself as a music producer, generator, multi-disciplinary artist, and meditator based in New York City. Amongst other things, today we talk deeply about her unique background, how her creativity is enhanced through meditation, and we get to experience a sound meditation titled Embrace Yourself. Kissey will be at the O+ Festival this weekend, Saturday, October 8th at 7pm at the Good Work Insitute offering: Access Your Connection & Blossom Your Inner Creativity which is a guided meditation where you can experience stillness, deeper connection with self, inner empowerment, and presence—through easy, gentle movements and simple breath techniques. These modalities are used to relax into the body and activate a deeper state of meditation, well-being, and inner creativity. The meditation will oscillate between deeper moments of stillness and release, with moments of building empowerment (inner energy). You can do the class sitting, standing, or lying down. A soundtrack written by Kissey will support your meditation.

Circle Creative Collective and their upcoming event, LUMINOUS.

LUMINOUS is a powerful celebration of the thinning of the veil between worlds, gifting us a unique way to honor our ancestors, the beloved departed, and even aspects of ourselves that we may have buried. Through story, song, community, a journey into the earth and our own hearts, LUMINOUS is a beautiful balm that will help bring light to these coming darker months of introspection.

It is a celebration of life, by honoring grief, impermanence, and the wisdom of the unseen world. Together with BLOOM, this second offering of hope and healing completes an important story of life’s most essential cycles of birth and death. At the heart of LUMINOUS are gifts shared to find light in the dark through re/connection and song. LUMINOUS is a living reminder that we are held by nature, love and magic, and that we hold the alchemizing, transformative powers of creativity.

Happening at 5 and 8pm on October 29th & 30th LUMINOUS will take you into the cavernous heart of the Earth through contemplative story and song. This exquisite interactive experience will remind us that even in the coldest, darkest times we are held by beauty, that we are magic, and that each of us can be a light in the dark. 

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241 Quiet Quitting and Labor

First off, I wanted to shout out two special happenings from past guests. First up is Romany Rose and Kat Hunt offering a night of pleasure in which they will explore the potential of healing through Medicinal Desserts and the Akashic Records. Happening Friday, September 30th, 7-9pm at Say Boo Studio in Kingston, NY. $55, includes all desserts and herbal beverages as well as Q&A with the Records.
To register and secure your place, please email medicinaldesserts@gmail.com.

Next, the Circle Creative Collective ladies are up to another magical happening. LUMINOUS will take guests into the cavernous heart of the Earth through contemplative story. It reminds us that even in the coldest, darkest times we are held by beauty and that each of us can be a light in the dark. We will offer two consecutive evenings to ponder and honor the importance that death, grief, and the dark carry…for there is no day without night. Happening October 29th and 30th, and they need your support. Financially and physically so please follow the link above to learn more. 

Today I talk with myself and share my thoughts about work, a favorite subject of mine. Here’s the NPR article on quiet quitting that I break down and discuss, and the articles on quitting and work boundaries and on modern slavery.

Caring Majority Rising and Tanaaz’s New Moon Report.

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