#145 Perla Ayora and Martha Preve Ayora of “No me Digas!”

Today I get to speak with two creative latinas, Perla and Martha. They’ve collaborated together on several projects including this short, OFF OFF OFF OFF Broadway, and their new radio show “No me Digas” on Radio Kingston.

Martha Lorena Preve Ayora @martha_preve one half of the dynamic duo behind No Me Digas on Radio Kingston. She is a Mexican theater and film actress, writer, director and producer. She is the co-founder of Something from Abroad  @somethingfromabroad an Indie theater company based in NYC. Originally from the Yucatan Peninsula, Martha loves creating art that mixes English and Spanish and combines her Mexican traditions and culture with American characters. Martha has also been working as a Stage Manager OFF BROADWAY. In her free time, she enjoys reading, going to the beach and watching as much dark comedy as she can!

Perla’s back! As the other half of the creative team behind “No Me Digas” on @radiokingstonny and frequent collaborator with her cuz Martha, she’s been busy since February when she was last on the show to talk about her stand up comedy. Soooo much has happened, or not happened since then, but cleary Perla’s making the most of it while stand-up is on hold. As a stand-up comedian @perla_ayora enjoys writing songs, poems, essays, and… jokes. As a member of the Radio Kingston tech team, if you’ve ever been to one of their supported events, you’ve likely seen her dancing between wires, framing cameras, or setting up a stage with complex technical sound design. Originally from Yucatan, Mexico, Perla now lives in Kingston with her hubby and two children.

No me Digas” Is a bilingual show about top news and contemporary events, hosted by two latina comedy writers, Martha Preve Ayora and me, Perla Ayora. We will make you think and laugh at the same time. It’s fun and informative, informativo y divertido. Irreverent and unapologetic, sorry, maybe just irreverent. This show will promise to exceed your expectations as long as they are very low. Tune in and if you support diversity share this show with the people you like, if not, share it with the people you don’t like. There is a lot of division in this world, we hope at least we can laugh together. It doesn’t matter if you don’t speak Spanish, you will end up yelling “¡No Me Digas!”

Here’s the collage class I was talking about with past guest Mel Toth.

Here’s the article I referenced on 3-Minute Commitments!

Today’s show was engineered by Nick Panken of Freedom Highway on Radio Kingston.

Our show music is from Shana Falana !!!

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#139 Helen Zuman “Mating in Captivity”

After some short technical difficulties, I finally connected with today’s guest, Helen Zuman, a tree-hugging dirt worshipper devoted to turning waste into food and the stinky guck of experience into fertile, fragrant prose. She holds a BA in Visual and Environmental Studies from Harvard and a Half-FA in memoir from Hunter College. Raised in Brooklyn, she lives with her husband in Beacon, NY and Black Mountain, NC.

She is the author of Mating in Captivity (She Writes Press 2018), a memoir of her five years, post-Harvard, in a cult with a radical take on sex and relationships. Mating in Captivity received a starred review from Kirkus, was named a Kirkus Best Indie Memoir of 2018, was a finalist in Creative Nonfiction for the Community of Literary Magazines and Presses’ 2019 Firecracker Award, and was both first runner-up in memoir and a finalist for First Horizon and Grand Prize honors in the 2020 Eric Hoffer Awards. Other work has appeared in The New Farmers Almanac, in Communities and Livelihood magazines, and on the Foundation for Intentional Community’s website (ic.org). 

Mating in Captivity: When recent Harvard grad Helen Zuman moved to Zendik Farm in 1999, she was thrilled to discover that the Zendiks used go-betweens to arrange sexual assignations, or “dates,” in cozy shacks just big enough for a double bed and a nightstand. Here, it seemed, she could learn an honest version of the mating dance – and form a union free of “Deathculture” lies. No one spoke the truth: Arol, the Farm’s matriarch, crushed any love that threatened her hold on her followers’ hearts. An intimate look at a transformative cult journey, Mating in Captivity shows how stories can trap us and free us, how miracles rise out of crisis, how coercion feeds on forsaken self-trust.

In addition to cults, we also talk about the journey to trust oneself, the “infinite growth myth,” gift circles, her connection to a well balanced eco-village that is doing intentional living well and how she takes care of herself (no social media!). I can personally highly recommend her book even for those not remotely curious about how one gets pulled into a cult. It’s extremely well written and uniquely empowering to hear some of the more difficult details of her story.

Looking for an intentional community or wondering about the health of one you’re currently in? Helen’s article may be of help to you. And if you do have friends, family or loved ones you fear are wrapped up in a cult, eh hm, political party, then Helen recommends some resources written by therapist and cult expert Steven Hassan. You can tune in to hear the best thing Helen’s Mom did easing her exit from the cult mind-control.

Today’s show was engineered by Nick Panken of Freedom Highway.

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