221 Domestic Violence and Lara Sabanosh, Author of “Caged”

The content of today’s show won’t be uplifting, at least not most of it, but it’s real and necessary information not to be ignored or forgotten. We will be talking about intimate partner violence or domestic violence and abuse so sensitive ears may want to avoid listening. My colleague Mariel Fiori shared this first story with me and covered it on her radio show which is in Spanish, but I’ll link to it for those who are able to listen. It’s a story about a 17 year old girl, Yesmi Lara, who was severely beaten by the father of her two year old daughter. You can contribute to Yesmi Lara’s Go Fund Me.

Then I share from this article, Six Ways to Support a Loved One In An Abusive Relationship via NPR and talk about the impacts of trauma and abuse via the story of Melissa Lucio. False confessions are more common than you might think. More than a quarter of people exonerated by the Innocence Project in recent decades had confessed to the crime they allegedly committed, as Science reported.

Then there was this important news story related to abuse in the military, Air Force General Found Guilty of Sexual Assault via NPR.

Here’s the info about the Women Who Serve in the Military event happening this Friday, April 29th, and the Stand Against Racism Event at YWCA Ulster County on Friday, 4/29 at [4:30]PM.

We take a break from the heavy to talk this weekend’s NEW MOON REPORT!

In the second half of the show I welcome Lara Sabanosh who grew up in various parts of the country and for a time, lived overseas in Guantanamo Bay (GTMO), where she was an education service facilitator at the Fleet and Family Support Center and became acting director in December 2013. She spent much of her adult life as a wife, mother and student, eventually completing two doctoral degrees. Six years in the making, her new book, Caged: The True Story of Abuse, Betrayal and GTMO, is an honest and introspective memoir detailing the never-before-told other side of an international, headline story, taking readers through the first twenty years of her tumultuous marriage to Christopher Tur, to events as she lived them on the night he went missing and the aftermath. Lara is currently retired from government service, residing quietly in Pensacola, Florida, surrounded by her loving family, dogs, and grand puppies.

Lara shares about the difficulties and challenges faced when confronting and getting out of an abusive relationship, about the prevalence of abuse in the military and how they are failing to properly address it, and how she has learned to talk to her children about it and why that’s important.

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220 Kaity Altu “Child Care Connections”

Today I have the pleasure of speaking with Kaity Altu, Grant Manager, Child Care Connections at Family of Woodstock about the importance of investing in children. The NYS Office of Children and Family Services is offering a new grant opportunity to help open new child care programs in our region!  The INVEST IN NEW YORK CHILD CARE DESERTS GRANT hopes to address child care deserts across our state by offering $100 million in funding to help build child care in the areas of New York with the least supply. Child care deserts are areas that do not have enough licensed and registered child care slots to serve the children who live there and can be found throughout NY State. The grant is open until Thursday, May 18th.

We talk about the grant as well as the importance of childcare for a well functioning society, the challenges faced by childcare providers, the financial barrier to childcare and the issues that impact it, and how the US ranks in global terms of investment in childcare and child poverty.

You can reach out to Kaity with childcare questions at kaltu@familyofwoodstockinc.org and checkout her “krafts” on Facebook.

Here are the other resources I mentioned; Screening children for anxiety via NPR.

Freakonomics Podcast – Why does the US have the highest child poverty rates.

And last but not least, the Heal Well “Together for Mental Health Panel” that I mentioned and will be moderating on May 5 at 5:30pm.

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219 Sacred Activism and Emergent Leadership with Marielena Ferrer

Back at it for another round of deep thoughts and wild talks with Mariaelena Ferrer.

The second Monday of the month is inspired by the book, Espiritualidad y Politica, which was published 11 years ago, of which Mariaelena was a contributor. She is also the Executive Director of Humanamente — a diversity and inclusion consulting organization, Chair of the Athena Network New York — a psychosocial support network in the area of social services, health, and specifically in mental health, for immigrants experiencing psychological challenges related to the migratory process, a board member of the Family of Woodstock, a member of the Arts Mid-Hudson Advisory Board, and Kingston’s City Arts Commission.

Today, we veer ever so slightly away from the book to discuss this article about bridging the divide between political groups. Then we return to the book to discuss the themes of sacred activism, emergent leadership and the shadow. We end the show with the upcoming Full Moon report on the intriguing Eris.

Join Marielena for her art opening, Broken Monarchs, at The Dorsky Museum on May 6th from 5-7pm.

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218 Trauma or Toxic Masculinity

Today’s show is dedicated to Sexual Assault Awareness Month and an exploration of toxic masculinity. Inspired by the anger displayed at the Oscars and the Grammy awarded to Louis CK, I dig into some questions I have about the source of this behavior and the ways we can work together to prevent it. I share the following talks and words from others who’ve spoken on these subjects including lots of my own thoughts. Would love to hear yours.

Tony Porter‘s (A Call to Men) Ted Talk about the “Man Box.”.

Are there problems with the term toxic masculinity.

Jackson Katz’s TedxTalk “Violence against women – it’s a men’s issue” and the bystander approach.

How is trauma related to toxic masculinity, “How Trauma Creates Toxic Masculinity

Toxic Masculinity to Male Fragility

Privilege’s role in this healing/changing this behavior. Chuck Derry from Gender Violence Institute May 3, 2019

Man Enough Podcast and Justin Baldoni’s TedTalk

How are we all complicit with the adherence to traditional masculinity in the military.

Can women be toxically masculineToxic Masculinity and Toxic Femininity

Some other resources mentioned:

Ulster County Crime Victims Services yoga and other classes here in Ulster County.

People’s Place’s Empowerment Center Holistic Healthcare Day.

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217 Opening Up the Abortion Conversation

Today, I approach the subject of abortion with a (somewhat) open mind. I appreciate the fact that this is a divisive topic, and my hope is to relieve some of the pressure on the subject so that we can address the practical issues that are related to reproductive care. As someone who believes that it should a person’s choice whether or not they have a child, I am committed to taking action to maintain that choice, but I am open to listening to and understanding other’s opinions.

So in my attempt to keep an open mind, I share two TedxTalks by women who are holding space for non-divisive conversations around this subject. Staying true to my own need to keep fighting for the right to choose, I share a Ted Talk that gives hope and suggestions for what to do when Roe is overturned. Finally, I share Ted Talk that has nothing to do with abortion or reproductive rights, but it’s as a reminder that life is complicated, people are complicated and their stories are not single nor straightforward, so let’s keep an open mind as we have these discussions. Plus a little New Moon wisdom…

TedxTalk by Asha Dahya, Journalist and women’s rights activist; founder/editor of GirlTalkHQ.com, presents: “Reframing Reproductive Rights: Going Beyond Pro-Choice vs Pro Life” Asha shares her big idea surrounding what it would it look like if we took the most divisive topic in America and changed the narrative beyond pro-choice and pro-life?

Ted Talk The End of Roe v. Wade by Kathryn Kolbert, Roe v. Wade, the landmark 1973 decision protecting people’s right to have an abortion in the United States, will be overturned within a year, says reproductive rights attorney Kathryn Kolbert. In this electrifying call to action, she breaks down the systematic attack against reproductive freedom in the US and envisions what a post-Roe world could look like. “First, we’ve got to build a badass social justice movement,” she says.

And just for reference, TedxTalk by Pro-Life Feminist Deanna Wallace. (not listened to on the show)

TedxTalk about “wholelife” principles, the precursor to “pro-life” and what’s been left out of it today by Khadija Garrison Adams, former missionary, master storyteller and Black breastfeeding champion Khadija Garrison Adams talks about the ways that fear of pregnancy impacts people who aren’t unmarried young adults, unpacks how our understanding of the pro-life movement is based on a faulty version of its history and how it’s origin story is ripe for building a third way in the conversation – a way that could be led by a group ignored by pro-life and pro-choice champions – The Black Church.

TED Talk The Danger of a Single Story by novelist and author of We Should All Be Feminists Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, which tells the story of how she found her authentic cultural voice — and warns that if we hear only a single story about another person, we risk a critical misunderstanding.

Maternal Mortality Stats

Stories for Choice from the TMI Project

And finally, here’s your Moon report.

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216 Spring Vibes and Spring Cleaning with Theresa

Happy SPRING! Today it’s me, some music, and talk of Spring vibes and Spring Cleaning.

Here are the links to the Forever Conscious Spring Equinox and Aries Season readings.

This episode was inspired by and based off of the spring cleaning tips and inspiration from NPR and The New Yorker.

For those of you near Ulster County, you can take your electronics to the Ulster County Resource Recovery Center. They also link to the Repair Cafe and their upcoming community Spring Rummage Sale.

Here’s an overall resource for reduction, reuse and recycling in NY State with good info on textiles!

If you want to get in on the sewing/craft share organized by Sarah Carlson, you can find her online here.

Local org Unshattered who creates repurposed handbags from your cherished clothing.

Live on the air we heard the following songs, but due to licensing you’ll have to go to the linked Playlist: “Trees and Flowers” by Strawberry Switchblade, “Cherry-coloured Funk” by Cocteau Twins, “Velvet Ring” by Big Thief, “Dance for Love” by Zella Day, “Didn’t Want to Have to Do It” by Cass Elliot, “Good Looking” by Suki Waterhouse, “These Days” by Nico, “Replaceable Heads” by Soko. You can hear them here with some bonus tunes for your Spring Cleaning enjoyment.

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215 Marielena Ferrer “War Through the Lens of the Tarot”

Back at it for another round of deep thoughts and wild talks with Mariaelena.

The second Monday of the month is inspired by the book, Espiritualidad y Politica, which was published 10 years ago, of which Mariaelena was a contributor. She is also the Executive Director of Humanamente — a diversity and inclusion consulting organization, Chair of the Athena Network New York — a psychosocial support network in the area of social services, health, and specifically in mental health, for immigrants experiencing psychological challenges related to the migratory process, a board member of the Family of Woodstock, a member of the Arts Mid-Hudson Advisory Board, and Kingston’s City Arts Commission.

March 14th is National Learn About Butterflies Day, and because Marielena has been working on an art installation involving 5000 butterflies, she shares why they are important to her, and a bit about her exhibit, opening May 6th, 2022 at the Dorsky Museum, closing May 8th.

Then we move right along to the biggest news in spirituality and politics today, the invasion of Ukraine. This includes a conversation about compassion inspired by this article. Marielena shares her assessment of the situation through the lens of the Tarot and then shares a meditation for all of us to practice on our own, to meditate on the key cards, the Emperor and the Hierophant, the majors players in what is unfolding at this moment.

Finally, we end the show with a little Moon love, and a share from Tanaaz about this week’s Full Moon Astrology.

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214 Tara Sanders “YWCA, Springwell, Self Care”

Tara Sanders is currently the Director of Community Outreach and Public Relations at YWCA Ulster County. Long before that, she came to her yoga mat to explore and heal. Having a strong commitment to serving the community and advocating for underserved populations, she has taught students at a mental health advocacy agency, homeless youth, and developed a therapeutic yoga & mindfulness program for a domestic violence shelter in Upstate NY. Since 2017 she has been working with the Ulster County Crime Victims Assistance Program in developing trauma informed yoga programming that is available for free to sexual assault survivors, anyone supporting survivors, and professionals working to support survivors with their healing. She was on the advisory board of Exhale to Inhale (2014-2020), a non-profit organization that brings yoga to survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault in New York and Los Angeles through free weekly classes at shelters and community-based organizations. She was one of Ulster County’s 2019 Raising Hope honorees, for her work in women mentoring women to success & Raising HOPE (help, opportunity, passion, empowerment) in our community.

Tara is a 500 hour registered yoga teacher, and has extensively continued her education with an emphasis on trauma-informed yoga, Yoga Nidra, children’s yoga, mindfulness, restorative yoga, adaptive yoga therapeutics, anatomy and bodywork, meditation, Ayurveda, and somatic healing. Working with adults and youth, it has been a dream come true to share the healing and grounding practice of yoga, and to be a conduit for the practices and teachings that have had such a profound impact on her life.

Today, Tara shared about the Y’s upcoming Springwell event happening on March 19th, the Building Resilience event happening on March 8th,  her trauma informed yoga classes sponsored by the Ulster County Crime Victim’s Assistance Program and the many more events happening at the Y leading up to their big fundraising gala happening in July, tickets go on sale in April. After the business talk, we then get personal with Tara, talking self care, boundaries, and living JOY informed!

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213 Caron Grossman “Heart Health and Permission to Grieve”

Caron Grossman is a Registered Nurse and Certified Transitional Life Coach. She has worked extensively with families, patients and health care providers in organ donation, critical care, health coaching and addiction. She has spent a great deal of time working with people in grief, end of life and other complex life transitions and living losses.

Caron is an inspirational speaker who offers different perspectives on grief. Topics have ranged from Self Care for Healthcare Providers when Experiencing Grief and Trauma, Learning to Communicate with your Grief, Caregiver Burnout and more…She finds great joy in creating and holding space in both large and small Grief Workshops and is looking forward to a new role as a volunteer and speaker for the American Heart Association.

Caron enjoys meditation, hiking, writing, drumming, frisbee, dancing, anything to do with water, one on one conversations over coffee, walking her favorite grand puppy, Lady Bark Ruffalo and her greatest joy is spending time with her 20 month granddaughter, Chloe, who has taught her the magic of pure play and presence.

Today Caron shares her story about losing her mom at the age of 13 to a heart attack when her mom was just 39 years old, and how her grief from that affected her life until the point that Caron decided to turn things around. She changed her eating, stopped drinking and tended to her emotional needs. A few weeks after a clear echocardiogram last year, she suffered her own heart attack. Caron shares the lessons learned and what she knows about tending to the needs of her heart, both physically and emotionally. We also talk about the importance of women understanding that we do not always present the same way as men when having a heart attack, and to trust your gut when it comes to advocating for your health.

As someone who’s studied and worked with her own grief Caron also talks about giving ourselves permission to grieve, including how to communicate with your grief. Here’s her TEDxTalk on the subject.

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212 Suz Slezak “Our Wings May Be Featherless”

Today I welcome Suz Slezak, mother and musician, to the show. For Suz harmonizing with another human being is a sacred act of sharing breath. This lifelong love of harmony is how she, as if by accident, fell into music as a career. Suz grew up TV-free on her family’s Virginia homestead, in an endless loop of fiddle-playing and singing led by her father, a Catholic seminary dropout, as she, her brothers and a gaggle of fellow homeschoolers traversed gravel roads in their beat-up station wagon en route to choir rehearsals and music lessons.

While not on a path to pursue music, it seemed to be following her. Convinced by her now-husband to join his band, the two eventually fell in love and for the past fifteen years have co-fronted David Wax Museum – earning accolades from the New York Times to NPR, performing on CBS Saturday Morning, and even playing Secretary of Transportation Pete Buttigieg’s wedding.

After years touring and co-fronting the band, Suz’s debut solo album, Our Wings May Be Featherless, comes out March 4th. It is a breathtaking journey through some of her life’s most painful and poignant moments – losing a best friend to suicide, her public struggle with bipolar disorder, and a traumatic childbirth. Today we listen to a few of the new songs and hear about the stories behind them.

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